I appreciated this and the dating manifesto; I got off the apps for the reason that I thought being on them was making me less kind (this was personal, I had met some wonderful people through them) -- and this was a good reminder that whatever technology one chooses to use or not use it's possible to approach dating with a kind and open and intentional attitude.
Thank you for this comment 💗 I was in that zone for a long time of not wanting to use the apps/had a negative attitude towards it, but more recently started to use it with a more thankful mindset and I feel it's bringing a different kind of experience and I'm grateful.
Coco, this essay is such a refreshing take on dating. What stood out to me most was the idea of the dating manifesto. The way you framed it as a deliberate act of vulnerability and intention felt like it wasn’t just about improving the dating experience, but about redefining how we connect with others on a deeper level.
The shift from presenting a curated, surface-level self to offering something honest and expansive struck me as not only a dating strategy but almost a life philosophy. It’s rare to see someone tackle such a broad and familiar topic in a way that feels this intentional and grounded. Thank you for sharing this. It left me thinking not just about dating, but about how we show up in all relationships.
Hi Tahsin, thank you for reading and really appreciate the genuine comment - it means a lot and it’s one of those comments that make me feel it was worth it writing this piece.
This is so good, Coco. I love the dating manifesto idea — we often say we know what we want, but can’t articulate it well. What a great way to reflect and make sure we’re actually showing up as a person with the qualities we hope to find in a partner as well.
I appreciated this and the dating manifesto; I got off the apps for the reason that I thought being on them was making me less kind (this was personal, I had met some wonderful people through them) -- and this was a good reminder that whatever technology one chooses to use or not use it's possible to approach dating with a kind and open and intentional attitude.
Thank you for this comment 💗 I was in that zone for a long time of not wanting to use the apps/had a negative attitude towards it, but more recently started to use it with a more thankful mindset and I feel it's bringing a different kind of experience and I'm grateful.
Very much enjoyed reading this... I'm writing my dating manifesto now!
Yay! Would be curious to see
Coco, this essay is such a refreshing take on dating. What stood out to me most was the idea of the dating manifesto. The way you framed it as a deliberate act of vulnerability and intention felt like it wasn’t just about improving the dating experience, but about redefining how we connect with others on a deeper level.
The shift from presenting a curated, surface-level self to offering something honest and expansive struck me as not only a dating strategy but almost a life philosophy. It’s rare to see someone tackle such a broad and familiar topic in a way that feels this intentional and grounded. Thank you for sharing this. It left me thinking not just about dating, but about how we show up in all relationships.
Hi Tahsin, thank you for reading and really appreciate the genuine comment - it means a lot and it’s one of those comments that make me feel it was worth it writing this piece.
This is so good, Coco. I love the dating manifesto idea — we often say we know what we want, but can’t articulate it well. What a great way to reflect and make sure we’re actually showing up as a person with the qualities we hope to find in a partner as well.
Thank you for reading :) It's a fun exercise to write it!
“Dating. It’s a topic I never had the courage to write about” I feel this!! Kudos on tackling a more personal, intimidating topic. Great read!
All thanks to the sketches I discovered I really wanted to write about this! Thank you for reading :)
Glad to see you moving into personal musings Coco! Have you implemented these principles? Have they changed dating for you?
Thank you!! :) And yes, to some extent I have / still a work in progress, but it already feels different in refreshing ways.
Whoo! The dating manifesto is public! And rude, calling me out as a serial first dater. Unnecessary 🫣
lool was it you with that comment? 😁😁shows you’re popular
Ha, I don’t think it was me, but I identify with the label!
😂😂
https://open.substack.com/pub/billionairbear/p/dating-the-yesmaybeno-grid?r=1g5bw0&utm_medium=ios